With millions of love video clips on Instagram; fascinating pictures
on Snapchat; romantic hashtags on Twitter; affectionate stories and photos on
Facebook; movies on perfect and standard marriages everywhere, the world paints
us a fantasy. A mirage we blindly buy, deeply absorb and wishfully live. All of
these make waiting dreadful, and portray it as a period solely for the unlucky.
Although, these models are a mere charade, it takes only a wise person to
remain strong and unflinching.
What then is left of a waiting woman? All around her is the
‘ideal’ life and she feels un-fit. Especially in an environment where there is
a marriage ceremony almost every weekend. Some of which she must attend! Smile
her way through aunties and uncles, saying ‘Amen!’ to the different prayers
that remind her of how much she is expected to grab the next available suitor.
She is pushed to return to her closet and cry: “Lord, carest thou not that I am
single?” It sometimes feels like an uneasy journey, exclusively meant for the forgotten.
Depending on one’s understanding, waiting is actually a
blessing! A time to cherish and enjoy, while it lasts. Of a truth, just like
the vision described in Habakkuk 2v3, it will surely come, even though it tarries; whilst
not forgetting God’s promise in Isaiah 34v16, that none shall lack a mate. Therefore,
the waiting period is that meant for preparation, self-awareness and personal
development. A time to discover passion, to learn, to build, to understand, to
love and to appreciate oneself. A time to be conscious that "Her race is different", and must be run differently. A time
one cannot return to once it is over.
The revelation of this truth about waiting, helps a woman build the inner strength needed to withstand pressure and confusion. She is equipped with a knowledge which helps her discern and shove distractions, as well as stand firm in the face of sexual, peer and even social media influences.
Girded with the right facts, from the word of God and spirit inspired teachings through books and podcasts, a woman is assured that the waiting time is not a desperate period, which makes every fruit look like the right one. Thus, she is patient, and would never settle for anything below God’s standard.
A choice-home is beautiful, but it is not the sole purpose
of a woman’s existence. The knowledge of God’s purpose for one’s life is very
important. While a woman awaits her life partner, she must continue on an
intimate journey with her maker, and adorn herself with both spiritual, emotional and psychological gifts which her world needs. With the wealth of strength, wisdom, prowess, which she gathers in this period, she begins exibiting being a blessing, continues as a blessing after she says I DO!, and she remains a blessing, like the Proverbs 31 woman.
Having said all, a godly foundation is the only antidote to
standing the test of time while waiting. It is the only guarantee to coming out
strong at the end. Especially in our today’s world, where genuineness is far
from reachable. This foundation is not one to begin building when the reality
of waiting hits. It takes a process of dwelling constantly in the secret
place, developed over a period of time. Being in a relationship first with the King. The result thereof is a kingdom
princess, a woman who understands God’s timing. She is strong enough to help others
and is convinced that a wait is an advantage.
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